The dining room is where the heart is, right? Wrong. This is the room that everyone in your life hangs out in.
I was reminded of this in a recent conversation with a friend. She was telling me about how her parents were constantly arguing in this room. They’d come up with some ridiculous reason to get each other’s attention like a big, obnoxious kid who just wants attention, or a person who just wants to annoy a parent. Either way, I was always reminded of the scene when my mom would get so angry that she’d go into her office to cry.
This is the room that should be the least stressful room in the house. The people in this room should be the least stressed out. The people in this room should be the least likely to be stressed out. The people in this room should be the least likely to get stressed out. The people in this room should be the least likely to get stressed out. The people in this room should be the least likely to get stressed out.
What people are doing in this room should be the least likely to get stressful. What people are doing in this room should not be the least likely to get stressed out. What people are doing in this room should be the least likely to get stressed out. What people are doing in this room should be the least likely to get stressed out. What people are doing in this room should be the least likely to get stressed out.
There’s a fine line between not stressful and being the least likely. We all try to make decisions every day that we don’t necessarily follow through with, but over time our brains get smarter at sorting out the factors that make things stressful (it’s part of growing up), and the ones that don’t. Some of these decisions are probably very common, and some are probably not.
A lot of people tend to make decisions that make things worse, which is why it makes sense that the least likely things to be stressed out are things that arent all that common. The other big factor is that we tend to make decisions in our heads, which means that we tend to focus on things we dont really need to make.
This is the most important thing to remember here. We just dont all react the same way. Some people seem to have a mental model of things that will make them feel stressed out. This mental model is not the same as a real world model, so some people might try to make the choice feel worse than it really is, or just make the choice based on the model they have of things to stress out instead of the choices they actually make.
When we make our decision to do something, we tend to pick things that are either going to be detrimental to us or will cause us stress. So, for example, choosing to go to a restaurant that will make you eat the most food is more stressful than choosing to go to a restaurant that has a salad bar.
The stress can also be found in the choices that people make. We make some decisions based on things we really need, but these are often things that we feel bad about having to do, but not the ones we actually need to do. For example, if you are going to do something you think is stressful, it might help to find a friend or a parent who is going to help with that thing.
Some of these things are actually obvious, but sometimes it’s easy to miss that something is stressful. If you want to do something stressful and you see that you are going to make the effort to do it, then you should do it. But for things that are obvious, it’s easy to ignore that we’re stressing. It’s easy to make excuses about how we have to do something and when we think that maybe it’s not stressful.